IS HONESTY THE BEST POLICY ANYMORE?
By Marty Carlson
Recently somebody had sent me a story about a young man named Alexi Santana. His life story the Princeton University admissions committee had found to be extraordinary.
Santana was in the freshman class of Princeton University in 1989. He had no formal schooling previously, he had spent his childhood on the streets in Utah. Working odd jobs as herding cattle, raising sheep, and he read a lot philosophy. He also was an active runner, and being out on the Mohave Desert he had trained himself to be a distance runner.
Popular on campus, got good grades in every class he took. A bit bashful and with his background gave him enigmatic appeal. Apparently, he never slept on the bed the dorm but on the floor.
As kids we all learned a lie seems a natural thing to do, and many psychologists and experts agree that children become more sophisticated liars as they age.
Santana’s story of background was all a lie. About a year and ½ after he started the college, a woman recognized him as somebody she knew as Jay Huntsman from a high school in Palo Alto, California almost a decade earlier. But apparently Jay Huntsman was not his real name either. Princeton officials eventually learned he was actually James Hogue, a 31-year-old who had served prison time for possession of stolen tools and bike parts. He was arrested at Princeton eventually.
Since that time Hogue is been arrested several times on theft charges. He was caught stealing in Aspen Colorado, as he tried to pass himself off as someone else.
People in this world are very crafty and adept at lying like Hogue is summer criminals to spend lies and we’ve deception to gain undeserved considerations. some are high-priced people who dupe investors out of billions of dollars. Some politicians lie to stay in favor to get votes, as we have recently seen.
The question is do you lie more or less than the average person?
Sometimes people lie to inflate their egos which could be a motivation of just about all politicians and may explain many of Donald Trump’s tweets. People lie to cover up behaviors, many professional athletes have been known to do that. It’s even happen in the science world with some people trying to make a name for themselves undeservedly.
Liars earned notoriety, sometimes because of how bold they are in their claims, which at times can cause more damage to many other people involved. Human behavior it seems has been telling all kinds of lies for many years.
We as a people, seem to lie with ease, whether it starts as a white lie or an outright major lie. We seem to want to lie to the closest to us and to many who may be casual acquaintances in our lives. We seem to be very adept at it. And people’s basic need to trust others many times make us incapable of detecting the lies.
Some people have told so many tall tales they can win awards and trophies at competitions. Those competitions also seem to be very popular.
It seems the ability to maneuver or manipulate others with words is as old as the emergence of the spoken word. It seems as a way to gain power and advantage over others.
Many professionals have looked for answers through research, to the root of the behaviors. How is the lie learned, or is it learned behavior, what is the mental health aspects of dishonesty, and where do most of us draw the line? And apparently, we as a people are too willing to believe many lies even when there is clear and convincing evidence of the opposite. It seems that it’s our natural faith in human nature. In the onset of social media has penetrated those beliefs and faiths even deeper. Many experts feel we are unable anymore to separate the facts from the lies and society is facing a real threat.
Some people feel that the truth comes naturally, and lying takes an effort and a sharp flexible mind. Some feel it’s part of growing up. Children at very young ages lie the most when they want to test their parents. There are many statistics on how many lies the average tells a day, and it seems to be numerous. Sometimes we do it to be kind, sometimes not.
There are many volumes of research on the subject, and the short Google search came up with some interesting information that I’m not going to put out now but would he be interesting for someone that wanted to look it up.
So, what is the best way to fine-tune your bullshit alarm? That would be a personal decision made on each individual’s part and my only statement to that is follow your instincts, and don’t be willing to accept anything anybody says in its entirety as you must use what I call a filter process and work through it. There is always a basic amount of truth there you should decide how much or little there is. Technology has opened up entirely new areas for bad guys and smooth talkers and it leads us to do we tell the truth and how much do we actually trust ourselves.
BTW I AM DECLARING MY CANDACY FOR PRESIDENT IN THEY YEAR 2020!
Figure that one out, a truth or lie and why………